She failed to build a great relationship with the mother of her fiancé, which is not exactly uncommon. However, things took a turn for the worse when she caught her future mother-in-law doing something unbelievable months before the wedding day!
Not Getting Along
Tracey took to Reddit to talk about the bizarre experience she had months before her upcoming destination wedding in Colombia. She sometimes found it hard to see eye to eye with Gina, her future mother-in-law.
She Was Caught
She always strove to be the bigger person during their arguments, no matter what, but she could not believe what she saw the older woman doing with her wedding gown… are you ready to find out what it was?
Made For Each Other
It is always in your best interest to have a happy and healthy relationship with your in-laws. Tracy hoped to bond with her future mother-in-law, especially after she said “yes” when Rick popped the question.
Help From Family & Friends
Everyone knows that weddings need to be planned perfectly, so a lot of pressure often builds. The help from family and friends usually takes some of the stress off of the couple to be.
Not How They Expected
When you look at the photos of Tracey and Rick on social media, you will think that they are a match made in heaven. They were ready to start a future together until everything fell apart one day…
Her Couture Wedding Dress
It is amazing that a wedding dress served as the last straw in this crazy story, but this was what happened anyway. Naturally, this bride wanted to have the most beautiful wedding dress for the big day.
She Went Big
She decided to go big and get a dress from a couture atelier called Galia Lahav. It was the place where Beyonce and other A-listers got their own dresses, so it is not surprising to see that it cost her $11,000!
The Perfect Day
Although this is a ton of money, many brides see it as only necessary since it’s one of the most important days of their lives. Many people take out loans and even second mortgages on their homes to afford their dream dress!
A Destination Wedding
For some couples, there is nothing more appealing than the idea of getting married near their home. However, Rick and Tracey were eager to tie the knot in Colombia. “We’re planning to be married in December in Colombia and of course, I’m beyond pumped,” she explained in her post.
She Wasn’t Happy
“It’s going to be a destination wedding for us, and I was very happy that I was able to talk him into having one.” However, there was one person who was not fond of the idea…
She Did Not Approve
Gina was quick to express her disapproval of the plan to get married somewhere so far. According to Tracey, Gina did not understand why they wanted to go to a place where “no one…speaks English.”
Aside from that, she expressed her fears about the security level in Colombia as well as the costs it would take. Even though she had some valid concerns about the plan, Tracey was not convinced that she was particularly concerned about the logistics of the wedding.
They Did Not Get Along
Tracey could not help but feel that Gina would not have been on board with the wedding regardless of where they had it. In the end, she knew that they just did not get along very well. “I always knew that she wasn’t really my biggest fan,” the bride wrote.
Didn’t See Eye-To-Eye
“She’s polite and very ‘fake’ friendly.” However, it seems like it was not just a matter of incompatibility. There was one huge issue that drew a wedge between these two ladies. So what was it?
A Territorial Mother
It seems like there was tension between Tracey and Gina because of the dynamics they had with Rick. His mother and fiancee were the two most important women in his life. Tracey thought that his mother acted strangely around him.
A Weird Relationship
“She’ll do things like sit on my fiance’s lap, or tuck his hair behind his ear, and cut his food for him,” she said. “On one occasion I actually saw her actually feed him….in public.”
Setting Their Boundaries
It was only natural that Tracey wanted to sort this out before the day of the wedding. It was a good thing that Gina dropped her odd behavior after Tracey talked to Rick about it.
Trying To Ignore Her
After this, the bride worked hard to keep Gina out of the wedding planning as much as possible. However, Tracey said that “she complains to my fiance behind my back on how she’s being excluded.” It all came to a head on one special day.
Changing It Up
After Tracey mentioned to Rick about how his mother behaved, he knew that it was time to speak to Gina about this. As you can see, he was between a rock and a hard place.
Maybe Things Will Improve
In the end, he knew that it was important for him to step up if he wanted everything to go smoothly in the future. “To my fiance’s credit, once I told him that I thought that was beyond weird, it never happened again,” Tracey said.
Leading Up To It
The day that changed it all for them started out on a relaxed note. Gina simply came over to see their new place. Both Tracey and Rick were thrilled to show her around since this new home meant a new chapter in their lives.
However, Gina did not congratulate them and only had harsh words for the couple, especially for Tracey. If we believe the Reddit post, the bones she had to pick with the younger woman was completely uncalled for.
Bashing Her Ring
What was the very first complaint that Gina had about Tracey? It was the engagement ring that Rick used during his proposal to her. As far as his mother was concerned, it was simply over-the-top.
However, Tracey then told her that it was moissanite, which made it a lot more affordable than a diamond. “She hates my engagement ring,” Tracey told everyone. “It’s far too extravagant and there are CHILDREN STARVING IN AFRICA AND PEOPLE DIE FOR THESE ROCKS (it’s moissanite).”
Complaining About The House
Let us see what else she had to complain about. Just like the ring, she did not have kind things to say about the house that they bought. Tracey wrote about how Gina did not understand why they spent that much money on it.
She Won’t Stop
According to her, it “is an extravagant display of wealth and just ‘isn’t us.’” However, Tracey defended their actions by saying that it was a “townhouse” that they got at a knock-off price. This was not the last of it, either.
Kindly Lose Some Weight
For most people, this next bit of criticism would probably have been the last straw. It was a good thing that Tracey stayed cool and kept calm. Gina then called her out for her weight gain and told her to shed some pounds before the day of the wedding.
Throwing It In Her Face
In the post, Tracey was straightforward and narrated, “I’m getting fat. Need to watch the calories so I can ‘fit into my dress. Future [MIL], meanwhile, is bragging about her diet and how chic and slenderizing her mother of the bride dress is.”
Not The First Time
Even Tracey was taken aback by these harsh words, it was not the first time for Gina to throw her some shade. Even though Rick’s mother would occasionally try to keep in contact with the young lady, she would often criticize various things about her.
She Can’t Win
It was clear that her future mother-in-law did not approve of her thriving relationship with Rick. Tracey could see that Gina wanted to turn her into the type of woman she wanted for her son.
Leave Her Alone
It was a good thing that Rick noticed how out of control things were getting between his mom and fiancée. He then asked Tracey to “help him put a bed in the spare guest room together.”
The Moment She Couldn’t Believe
She was grateful for the opportunity to stop Gina from insulting her any further, so Tracey willingly went to the room and left Gina behind. However, this young woman got the shock of her life when she went to the master bedroom about half an hour after this moment…
Caught In The Act
Tracey went to their bedroom to take a bathroom break, but she could not believe the sight that greeted her there. She found Gina trying on the wedding gown! “What do I find but Future MIL struggling to yank my dress over her head BUT WAS FREAKING STUCK,” she said.
She Nearly Fainted
“I blurted out ‘what the heck?!’ and she immediately started stammering ‘Oh my God! OH MY GOD! OH GOD!’” If that is not crazy enough for you, wait until you hear what happened after this.
She had almost no time to process what she was looking at. She ran over to Gina and told her to step out of the Galia Lahav dress right that moment. However, the older woman could not get it off! Tracey tried to help her out of it.
She Had No Choice But To Help
She wrote, “At that point my number one concern was her tearing the sheer backing of my dress so I rushed over to help her.” Things went very, very wrong for the two of them…
Torn And Dirty
It took them an intense and desperate struggle to get it off her. Unfortunately, Tracey was devastated when she saw what happened to it. “It was all for not as she managed to scratch her way through the back of the dress and completely destroy the sheer material,” she said.
It Was Ruined
“She burst the side zipper of the dress and got a dirty footprint on the train.” We really cannot blame her for the disbelief and frustration she felt at that moment. She then turned to Gina to ask why she did that.
At A Loss For Words
It does not come as a shock to hear that Tracey struggled to speak after seeing this. She could only cup her head in her hands and hold back a scream after seeing what happened to her dress.
A Step Too Far
Gina had already given her so much grief, and this was a step too far even for her. She could not believe that she actually did something like this. Let us see what Gina had to say to the question Tracey posed…
Making Sure It Fits
Tracey was angry and demanded to know why Gina tried to pull a stunt like that. “She responded that she was just trying to make sure the dress would fit me; because if the dress fit her, then it absolutely fit me too,” she narrated.
This Wasn’t An Excuse
“If it didn’t fit her, then I obviously had some work to do.” Obviously, Tracey had already tried it on. The fit was perfect on her. What did Rick have to say after finding out about this?
Feeling Very Disturbed
Tracey was not the only one who was “very disturbed” by what just happened. Rick was bewildered by the behavior her mother displayed. “Mostly because I doubt she was trying to just try on the dress for fun…
There was also a bouquet of dried flowers on the bed that wasn’t there before,” she said, “I think [she] was actually trying to pretend she was the bride… which for so many reasons, is so wrong.” Can you believe that this was not the worst thing that Gina did?
Covering The Repairs
Tracey at least expected Gina to offer to cover the damages that she caused. However, it seems like her expectations for her future mother-in-law was just too high. You won’t believe what the mother of her fiance did next.
Something Up Her Sleeve
She wrote, “She hasn’t offered to pay for any of the repairs to the dress. A section of the train is ripped,” she said. “I have no idea how much it’s going to cost until I can get to the seamstress tomorrow.” Even after her refusal to pay for it, Gina had something else up her sleeve on that fateful day.
You would have at least thought that Gina would feel some remorse for what she did. Instead, she told the young woman that she should not have spent that much on it anyway.
Time To Act
“In the meantime, in lieu of an apology, she’s lecturing me on spending so much money on a wedding dress,” Tracey recounted, “Clearly the trouble she had getting into the dress was a sign to get something less dramatic and ostentatious.” She decided that it was time to come up with a plan.
Hearing From The Public
Clearly outraged by what just happened, she took to Reddit once more. She started to think about taking legal action against Gina but wanted to hear what others thought about it. She was excited to hear from the crowd.
Asking For Compensation
For her, it felt like she should get compensation for what the older woman did to her. “I know it’s just a dress, but this goes beyond the dress,” she said. A lot of online users expressed their support for this plan.
However, those who did not had a lot of things to say about Gina’s actions as well…It did not take long before the Reddit post started to make rounds. It attracted a lot of reactions and comments from the members of the community.
“This may be a bit scorched earth, but I would personally tell her that either she pays for the repairs, or she is uninvited,” one Redditor suggested. Others simply expressed their disgust at what happened.
Back To Reddit Once More
Another person even said that Gina’s actions made them gag. Let us find out if Tracey was able to seek the justice that she deserved. After several months of uncertainty, she returned to Reddit one more time to keep everyone up to speed.
Went Back On His Word
Tracey asked Rick to tell his mother that she was no longer invited to the wedding. He agreed then, but she later found out that he caved in and went back on his word. We have a feeling things aren’t looking great for these two.
Calling It Off
Even though they have since canceled the wedding, the two of them are still together and trying to make the relationship work. She said, “I want to be able to go the distance with him, but while she is in the picture I just don’t think I can.”
One Last Update
A couple of months after this, she was ready to give the community yet another update. She kept everyone posted on the situation with her future mother-in-law. The good thing was that Rick was doing his best to remain true to his promise by staying away from his mother.
Checking Up On Him
“My fiance has kept his end of the bargain; he’s had no contact with FMIL,” she said. “How do I know? I’m religiously checking his accounts.” However, you will not believe what happened next.
All Means Necessary
Tracey had one more thing to say about how their relationship with Gina is doing. The older woman is desperately trying to get in touch with her. Do you want to hear what some of her attempts are?
Stalking The Couple
Let us just say that Gina is not above calling in the wee hours, leaving “nasty notes” under the door, and sending her unpleasant text messages. “Fiance and I typically go shopping on Wednesday nights,” she also said. “Guess who was waiting for us in the parking lot at 7PM? We didn’t get out of the car after we saw her pacing around the entrance.”
Can you imagine being told what to wear based on how much you weigh? This story starts when a bride took to Facebook to make an announcement addressed to her wedding guests. It did not take long before her post made its way to Reddit. She wrote the long message for her upcoming destination wedding, which was going to be held in Hawaii.
It is not unusual for a bride to talk to her guests about various wedding-related things. However, what makes it so odd is that she demanded the guests shell out thousands of dollars to follow a dress code.
A Real Bridezilla
When it comes to the wedding party, it is common for brides to assign a specific color or even a particular dress for her bridesmaids. These ladies might not like the style, but they are usually willing to do anything that will make the bride happy.
However, this is not some story about the bride forcing her friends and relatives to wear an over-the-top dress during the wedding. No, this bridezilla created a dress code for all the people who planned to attend the wedding. And she did not limit this to the wedding party!
For Visual Purposes
Her post began innocently enough. At the top part, she merely greeted the guests and then followed it up with this announcement: “Who’s ready for Hawaii 2019?” After that, she continued by saying that even though it was still one and a half years away, she needed to discuss something important with them. As you might have guessed, it had something to do with the dress code.
The bride then went on to say that she was addressing this matter a long time in advance to make sure that the guests could have enough time to “find and pick out something nice.” She also explained that the specific dress code was put in place because she wanted everyone to make an “incredible visual effect” during the “synchronized dance” part of the reception.
Did you think that the bride telling her guests what kind of outfit to wear during the wedding would be the weirdest part of this? Well, you should know that this was only the start of the story. What truly caused such a strong reaction was the way she decided to do it.
In her post, she split the dress code into five individual categories. They were as follows: women weighing 100 to 160 pounds, men weighing 100 to 200 pounds, women weighing more than 160 pounds, men weighing more than 200 pounds, and children. It was already unusual enough for her to instruct all the guests on what to wear. However, it was also insulting that she did this based on their weight! We doubt that anyone expected to hear such a thing when they RSVPed.
Suede & Velvet Only
You must be intrigued by the guidelines she set for each category! Women weighing anywhere from 100 to 160 pounds were asked to wear a velvet green sweater and orange suede pants. On top of that, they were asked to sport Louboutin heels that are for sale at $700 per pair. The bride made sure to emphasize that these ladies should only get a red pair because “the effect will amaze you” when they “spin and lift” their feet. We aren’t sure what she’s going on about, but let us move on.
As hard as it is to fathom, this is not where things end. To complete the look, the guests were told to don a scarf! Of course, she was not going to settle for any scarf. She asked them to bring a cashmere scarf by Burberry. Needless to say, this was going to cost a couple of hundred dollars as well.
What about their male counterparts? Apparently, men weighing anywhere from 100 to 200 pounds need to wear something else altogether. Even though the ensemble is cheaper, it is equally strange.
The ensemble came with a purple fuzzy jacket, a soda hat, and white sneakers. To top off this silly look, the bride also asked the people who fell into this category to bring “plain glow sticks”… What?
Decked Out In Black
All right, onto the next one. What about the women weighing more than 160 pounds? The bride wanted to keep things simple by making them wear black. That’s right, she asked them to wear black pants and a black sweater. The bride was not that fuzzy and told them they can pick “any material”.
To cap it off, these ladies were asked to slip on a pair of black heels. We do not know if it is more offensive that she created an entire category for women who weigh more than 160 pounds or that she asked them to wear an all-black outfit.
Camouflage For You
If you were wondering just how weird it will get, just you wait. The bride had some weird dress code instructions in store for them. Let us now take a look at what she asked of the men weighing over 200 pounds.
We have no idea why, but she asked the male guests who fell into this category to wear camouflage! The only non-camo thing would be a pair of black sneakers. Why would she ask them to do such a thing?
Of course, there was no way she was going to limit her silly instructions to the adult guests. There were going to be kids attending the wedding as well. She wanted them to be dressed in all read. According to her, their outfits need to be “red from head to toe.”
To ensure that she got her message across, the bride told the guests that the children will be the ones to “form the shape of a heart” at some point in the synchronized dance. This is the reason the outfits “need to be true red, not blood orange.”
You were wrong if you thought the bride was going to limit her instructions to the dress code. She wanted to make it clear that the guests did not only have the “required” outfits but also needed to bring their own “formal attire” change of clothes. They would wear this after the dance.
Even though the bride did not specify anything for that part of the reception, she did tack on the fact that it is an “extremely upscale” venue. It meant that they had to be at their “absolute best”, of course.
We know it is easy to assume that the whole dress code fiasco is just a joke, although you only need to see the end of her message to dispel any such thoughts. She was very serious.
The bride did not hesitate to send the guests this warning: “If you look like trash, so will we”. After this, she went on to talk about the proper budget that the guests should spend on the attire. Her computation was “at least $1,000.” She went on to say, “This wedding is 24k themed for a reason.”
It was surprising that the bride seemed to realize just how overwhelmed the guests might feel after reading her message. We doubt that many people can shell out that much on something like this.
This is the reason she made it clear that they had a “year and a half to get working”, so there was no way they could not follow her guidelines about the dress code. Was she even going to have any guests left after this message that she sent?
We have to admit that the guest who leaked this on Reddit had been very brave. Clearly, the bride did not want this to get out of the immediate circle. Despite her wishes, the post went up on the internet and made its rounds online anyway.
It did not take long before the post received more than 10,000 shares. Aside from that, it received thousands of comments from Redditors. A lot of commenters blasted her for “body shaming” the guests and called her names such as “self-centered”. Some people decided t pay attention to the colors that she indicated in the message, however.
We think that the friends of the bride had the right to say something about the clothes she asked them to wear. One person went to the effort to show what the guests would look like if they followed her instructions. As you can see, it was not very flattering.
No one can blame them, however. The colors seem to have been randomly chosen, which is annoying when you consider how much they cost. On top of that, the wedding was in Hawaii as well. It is normally warm in that part of the country, so a velvet sweater and corduroy pants made for a bad combination.
A Sort Of Follow-Up
It was not long before the bride found out that a guest posted the dress code online. Are you shocked to hear that she went on Facebook to make a post for the guests? This went up on Reddit later on as well.
She took the time to make a passionate note that read, “I could not be more crushed, betrayed, or saddened…knowing someone went behind my back and made fun of me is one of the worst feelings”. She clearly was not happy with the “snitch”. She also said, “Boy, will you be paying”. Yikes!
A Polygraph Party?
After the whole fiasco, the bride told her wedding guests that she planned to hold a “polygraph party” at her house. This event involved the use of a “real polygraph test”, which she got for “$99 on Amazon”. This was her plan to find out which one of them leaked the dress code online.
Not only that, but she also said that those who would not come to the odd party was “presumed guilty”.
Are you wondering which polygraph test she bought? If you are planning to buy one as well, you should know that this here is the one she got. She decided it was worth it to buy the best of the best for such a serious case. She was not going to buy a cheap polygraph. This was a mystery she needed to crack.
At any rate, you should keep in mind that polygraphs have not been proven to work. Even so, we have to say that a polygraph party sounds like a lot of fun. It sure is one way to throw a memorable party.
In one more post, she said that it was fine if there were some people who did not feel happy about her dress code.
They only needed to talk to her about it. There were other things they could do if they did not want to join the synchronized dance, after all. They could stick around to help the staff “clean up after dinner” or even “contribute to the honeymoon”. She told them, “Anything counts”.
Not Having It
When she posted this, a couple of the guests could no longer stand it. One of them even went as far as to make this long comment to express their thoughts on the issue. They then declined the invitation to the wedding after hearing about this silly dress code.
We have to say that it sure sounded tempting to do the same thing. If we were in their shoes, we would have done it too. The dress code and expenses sounded outrageous enough. We cannot fathom why the bride would want her guests to help with cleaning up. It is not something you ask wedding guests to do.
It makes sense to us that so many people had a lot of things to say about this. Barely any of them were positive, however. The original post had an overwhelming number of comments! Many people wanted to weigh in just to confirm how ridiculous the story was.
Some people started to wonder how the story could be true since it sounded too far-fetched. Trust us when we say it is real. Aside from the skeptics, many commenters got mad about the way she discriminated based on weight as well as her approach to catching the ‘snitch’.
Well, it is not news to anyone that Redditors have a lot of free time on their hands. One of them decided to figure out how the color scheme was going to look all. They made this amazing mock-up to demonstrate the point they were trying to make.
We will just let the diagram speak for itself! There are a couple of obvious highlights there, however. The “Pepsi” hat made a lot of people snicker. Of course, how can we ignore the silly division she made based on the weight of her guests?
You were wrong if you thought that you heard everything the bride had to say. She wanted to address those who made fun of her too. When she found out that the post went viral, she went on a full-on rant.
She tried to justify the decision she made by talking about how she and her fiancé were “certified spiritual healers.” We really thought that this is true. After all, if they were the real deal, we would have expected her to handle the entire situation with more composure and dignity.
During her long rant, the bride mentioned the reasoning that played a part in the color scheme. One can easily assume there was some logic behind their choices, but it seems like this is not true. When she spoke about the colors they chose, this bride mentioned that those “black and camouflage outfits” were supposed to represent the devil and they will then “shoo away”.
Even though that sounds very fascinating, it does not excuse the fact that she requested the heavier guests to wear the particular colors. Do you want to see what people had to say about the explanation?
It was like the bride was working hard to dig herself out of this hole. However, she only made a deeper and deeper hole for herself in the end. It seems like she was not done yet when she separated the guests by weight. She also had a so-called ‘logical’ reason for this.
Don’t worry, the bride did not disappoint. Of course, people from all over the world were curious to hear about what happened next. With so much ridicule and outrage on the internet and among the guests, there was no way this wedding would actually happen… right? Let us see if we’re correct.
The fact that she thought it was a good idea to split up the guests by their weight was insensitive enough already. This only alienated guests. However, when she started to compare “overweight guests” to the devil they needed to shoo away, it was a field day for the Redditors.
They did not know if she wanted to demean them on purpose, but it sure did look that way. It felt like the bride failed to do anything correctly. However, this was not the end of this at all. There was something else that made others think about her in a different light.
Psychics Desensitization Chamber
The bride thought it was a good idea to mention that she and her fiancé met at a psychic desensitization chamber. What do we get from this piece of information? Well, she was clearly not a conventional girl.
On top of this, she went on to say that the experience led her to factor in her “traditions and beliefs” into the wedding day. This is perfectly understandable, although we are certain that she could have done this on a different day. Now, what about the money issue? There was another reason for this…
Not only did she have ridiculous demands about their outfits, but she also wanted her guests to spend at least $1,000 for their “regular” wedding clothes. Now, how did she justify asking such a thing from the guests? She tried to do this when she went on her rant.
Apparently, this expensive clothing was meant to “represent the riches” that the bride and groom hoped to have in the future. A lot of people like to incorporate some kind of symbolism into the wedding, although we do not think it is a good idea to ask everyone on the guest list to do this.
In all honesty, this whole deal is basically an awareness problem. The most incredible part of this story is that the bride really wants her wedding to be perfect. She wants happiness and love, as everyone does, but she isn’t aware that the world doesn’t revolve around her.
Money does not grow on trees, after all. She definitely went overboard when she asked others to spend so much money on her wedding. On top of the $1,000 minimum, keep in mind that people already had to pay for their flights to and from Hawaii.
All the speculation now brings us back to the most pressing question about this event. What will happen to the wedding? There is nothing else to do but to wait and see. We really do hope them nothing but the best, but we also want them to live a little and stop ruining the day of their friends and family.
More than anything else, we want the bride to stop this kind of behavior. She should not force wedding guests to spend so much money. After all, she might have a tiny wedding party if she keeps behaving in this manner. We hope it was worth it for her version of a “perfect wedding”.